When Parents disapprove your choice of partner

This is a problem that is probably as old as time. Children don’t always choose the mate their parents want for them. Bollywood has churned out stories after stories based on the struggle of the parent generation to accept their adult kids’ choices. But however timeless and universal the theme may be, when it comes home, it’s painful.

“I’m caught between my mother and my wife,” says a 25-year-old man in Bangalore. –“ My conservative mother expects my wife to obey her and wait on her when she visits, just as she did for her mother-in-law. My wife works all day and doesn’t see why my mother can’t start dinner or help out when she visits. My mother constantly complains. My wife cries. What do I do?”

A young man in Gurgaon shares “My wife is from south and I’m a Punjabi. My father goes on and on about “Us Punjabi whenever we visit them. My mother can’t shut him up. My wife tries to smile through it and bears it up. We fight when we get home because she says I should stop him but I know nothing I can say is going to change him.”

“My boyfriend and I want to marry but we’re from different casts and we know our parents will never agree. We’ve been secretly seeing each other for 4 years now.” – From a young women in Jaipur.
Couples in love want acceptance and love- respect from their parents, elders. Instead they are faced with society norms, traditions, old values and prejudices. No one wants to see the love and understanding the couple may share. The future they may have together. All they see is cultural differences.


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